When I Stopped This Habit, My Life Changed

Hey my loves! I’ve been doing a lot of thinking the more I encounter a similar thought that many people share with me when they’re asking how to start their own blog or their own business, they say… “But I’m afraid what people will think.”

Those words right there, will make or break the life you live, I’m telling you. I come across this so often that I had to make a blog post about it and how it makes me feel when I see someone holding back from living their life just because of someone else’s opinions.

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Don’t get me wrong, it’s easier said than done to stop caring, of course you’re going to wonder what your parents or maybe your partner will think about a choice you make. However, you cannot dictate your life choices just on what other’s will think, that’s seriously no way to live.. Let me tell you a little about me to put things into perspective..

I’m a total black sheep, I feel my whole life I never fit in. I never fit in high school, with my family, nobody. I always had different goals and passions, it made me insecure actually. Until the past few years, I was such a people pleaser and always went ahead with what everyone else was telling me to do, I never questioned it. That changed when I realized how unhappy I was, I found myself applying to college solely because that’s what everyone always told me you had to do to be successful in life. Everyone in my senior class would talk about what University they were applying to, what they were going to study, and I was sitting there thinking.. well what if I don’t want to go to college? 

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Long story short, I ended up going to college and lasted about a year and half before I realized it totally sucked for me. During this time, I started blogging as I was so unhappy with what was going on in my life, and I came across an opportunity to build an online business. This was the new chapter for me that opened my eyes up to what truly brought me happiness, once I decided to jump all in with my online endeavors, I had no choice but to own it and tell the people in my life that this was what I was going to do instead of school. Were some people in my life disappointed? Did some people question me or judge me? ABSOLUTELY.

Did I care? Not one bit. I realized that at the end of the day, I have to live with myself. I have to live this life I have, nobody else does. Why should I spend my life pleasing other people just to wind up unhappy? Makes no sense. This was a pivotal moment for me, and ever since, I have been unapologetically myself. If I ever come across anyone who passes judgement as to what I do, I don’t even think twice. People will pass judgment on things they know nothing about, don’t take it to heart.

So, my point to this ramble is that the day you decide to live life for YOU, your life will change. I promise. It did for me, I feel everyday I get to wake up and work towards something that lights up my heart, there’s nothing better than that. At the end of the day, those who truly love you will support whatever you do. I’ve also learned that, those who stuck by my side and supported me are ones I’ll never forget. If you’ve got people in your life disowning you or unsupportive, then they just truly don’t care that much about your happiness and well being, that’s the truth.

Each day I get into a conversation with at least one person who says they are afraid of what others’ will think, every single day, and it probably won’t ever stop, because I guess that’s how we are wired as humans. We just have something inside of us that seeks approval within others, I’m here to tell you that your life will never fulfill you until you switch that mindset! It will be scary at first, it will be overwhelming, but once you own your life, you will never look back.

I hope that this post can help someone out there who was similar to me, too afraid to make their own decisions and follow their dreams, let this be a sign for you to GO DO IT! GO AFTER THAT DREAM! 

Q: Have you ever felt fearful of what others’ would think? How did you deal with it? Let me know in the comments below!